Lisa’s Daily Musings …
Stop being a little bitch about your fears …
Stop letting them take over your life and stopping you reaching the goals and success you want … and deserve.
It’s time to fix the fuck up girl and start making some changed.
You want success … but you’re scared of it!
That stop s NOW!!!
It is well documented that many people fail to achieve their goals due to the phenomenon is known as …
“fear of failure”
But are you aware that a major factor that is often overlooked is a state known as …
“fear of success”?
Fear of failure will lead many people to inaction … the inability to make decisions or take action in case they receive rejections or negative outcomes.
This mental state is fairly easy to identify and there are many tools in the personal development world to help combat this plague and reprogram the mind for success.
But … the fear of success is much more subtle, harder to spot and also harder to get rid of.
It’s very likely you can identify with this … I see it showing up with biz babes all the time … even you!
Here are some indications of a fear of success mentality
😞 Studying and trying to implement self-improvement techniques and/or personal development tools but your life doesn’t actually improve or may even get worse.
😞 You settle for less than you feel you deserve or are capable of achieving.
😞 You start new projects full of enthusiasm, passion and optimism but wane in your efforts or stop short before you have completed them.
😞 You expect things to go wrong no matter how well the situation appears to be at the moment.
Can you identify your own patterns in the any of the above statements?
I know you said yes.
The fear of success can also make you behave in ways that hold you back.
Look at the list below … These are some of the symptoms of the fear of success. …
😧 Procrastination
Putting off what needs to be done or not doing what you know will bring you closer to your desired result.
Everyone suffers from this inner ‘demon’ at some point in their lives (although some of us suffer from it more than others!).
Procrastination is a ‘success killer’!
How can you expect to reach your destination if you do not take steps towards it?
Strive to do little things each day that will bring you small steps closer to your goal.
Continued daily improvement … just do a little bit more then you did yesterday.
Take action!
Any fucking action!
Refine your steps as you go along but do not sit and do nothing.
Taking action is one of the key aspects to reaching success.
😧 Can’t see the forest for the trees!
This is almost the opposite of procrastination but has the same effect on your success.
The saying is well known but have you ever given it real thought?
Don’t get caught up in your plan believing that it is more important than the materialised goal!
For many years I got caught in this trap … I started to think and act as though my plan was more fucking important than my end result and thus missed many opportunities to alter my path and reach my goals more quickly!
It sucks!
Let go of your fucking ego and allow the Universe to show you a quicker route to your goal.
Remain flexible!!!
😧 Thinking that the time is not right
Aww man … I see this one come up ALL the time with clients.
Have you ever waited until the timing was perfect before starting something?
Have you ever waited until you had more information on a better plan?
Again ACTION is the key to the door to success.
Taking small steps forward are better than taking none or waiting to see if your foot is landing on the right spot!
Even if your actions take you away from your goal you have at least gained insight and knowledge about what does not work!
😧 Being a perfectionist
This one stone far too many hours, days, weeks, months from me. I was so hell-bent in trying to make everything I did PERFECT that one simple job ended up taking me a million time longer to get shit done.
This is similar to the point above and has the same effect, namely, that you never really move forward.
No matter how good a job is when its finished it can always be improved!
I have heard many awesome music producers tell how they hate listening to their own tunes because they can find a million things that need improving …
Yet, we still enjoy them .. to us they are awesome.
REMEMBER … done is better than perfect!!
😧 Seeing only problems
How do you use your focus?
Do you constantly see only and all the bloody problems involved?
If you are this way inclined it is pointless trying to change overnight!
But … you can use this mindset to your advantage while you strive in your personal development to acquire an opportunistic frame of mind instead.
“How can you use seeing only problems to my advantage?” you say.
EASILY!!!
Look at the problems and prepare a plan to deal with them.
Every time you overcome one congratulate yourself.
Use them as a gauge for your achievements.
If you keep seeing more problems remind yourself of how well you dealt with the others.
Look at how far you have come!
If you see a problem ask yourself …
“how best can I overcome this challenge?”
or
“how quickly can I rectify this situation?”
Use the problems as fact finders.
Is there a real problem now? … If so then deal with it.
Is it a potential problem? … If so then create a contingency plan in case it does occur but don’t get caught up in it just be prepared.
Enjoy the mother fucking journey!!!!
Follow the above guidelines and you will achieve success quicker and easier then you are right now.
Eventually …. your fear of success will dissipate and you will have moved a long way forward in your personal development.
Love & Light
Your Empire Creation Queen 👑
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